Chances are if you are in a band, you will struggle with how to not be pretentious. There is a fine line between being legitimately one’s self and pretending. There is pressure to one-up the bands who you view as being more authentic or more brilliant, or underground that you. There is also fan pressure to be the person that your groupie sees. Here are the 3 most annoying pretensions.

The born idol. The problem with being pretentious is that it turns off the kind of music fans who will stick around, the REAL fans. You might think it is impressive to say things like “I guess when I was 2 I knew I would be a rockstar.., it’s kind of my destiny” when asked how you knew you wanted to be musician. There are people who will love this, but even if it’s true that you think you are god’s gift to the music industry, be humble about it. If you picked up guitar at 11, really that is impressive enough.

My super special and unique genre, is a very common way to be pretentious. Especially when the genres are sub genres of your genre like: Psychedelic trippy Acid, or Death Gore horror. Long gone are the days when people gravitate to the gigantic Alternative section of the record store. At this point, you can pretty much make your own genres.  Just bare in mind that people will probably not be looking for the #hashtag Drip-hop. Stick to 2 genres that are both necessary to define your sound. Garage Rock FTW.

Everyone says I look like.. Enter famous rockstars. Men tend to do this more than women in the music industry. I do not think I have even met a female musicians who ever said “Everyone says I look like Stevie Nicks!”. Guess what, if you look like David Bowie’s twin, people will notice you wont have to remind them. Also it really subtracts from your hopefully unique band image.  The worst is when someone says they look like a particular rockstar and frankly they don’t- but it sure looks like they robbed their wardrobe.